At The Table And At The Family Door
A neighbor at the table, the family door guarded, and grace at work.
Devotional Credit: Immeasurably More, Ray Stedman
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We live in a noisy world where it can be easy to mix up our assignments. Paul wrote to a messy church and clarified something that still trips us up. We are sent into the world with good news, not with a gavel. We do not quarantine from unbelievers who do not share our values. We move toward them with the kindness of Jesus, trusting His life in us to shine where hearts are hungry.
Inside the church family, Paul says something different. When someone claims the name of Jesus, yet persists in open, unrepentant wrongdoing, the church must not pretend it is fine. Loving discipline is not about pride or punishment. It is about clarity, restoration, and the honor of the One who lives in us. Think of a family closing a dangerous door to protect the house, while keeping the porch light on for a prodigal to come home.
Ray Stedman puts a finger on the common mistake. Many believers withdraw from people outside the faith for being messy, then tolerate what is destructive inside the church. Paul flips that. Toward the world, we bring friendship and the gospel. Toward the church, we pursue restorative honesty and, when needed, firm boundaries shaped by love.
This is not cold. It is care. It is the life of abiding in Jesus expressed in real relationships. We are not judges of the world. God handles that. We are witnesses in the world, and we are stewards of the family life of the church. When the church walks in this pattern, grace tastes like grace to outsiders, and holiness looks like health among insiders.
Journal Entry – Voice of the Holy Spirit Through Scripture
I sent you into the world, not to condemn it, but that life in My Son would be seen. I came to seek and to save what is lost. Walk among neighbors with a gentle presence, seasoned speech, and open hands. Be ambassadors, not accusers. Let your conduct be wise toward outsiders, and your love make room at the table.
Within My household, let love be sincere. When a brother or sister claims the name of Jesus yet clings to what destroys, do not call darkness light. Go first in private, then with witness, always with a spirit of gentleness, aiming for restoration. If they refuse, set a boundary that honors My name and protects the flock, yet do not treat them as enemies. Warn them as family, pray, and leave the door of return in place.
Remember who you are. You have been crucified with Christ, and you live because Jesus lives in you. You are united with Him in His death and raised to walk in newness of life. You are washed, sanctified, and justified. Abide in Me, and I will express My life through you. Your purity is not self-made. Your courage is not self-sourced. I am the One at work in you to will and to do for My good pleasure.
Let your community carry both tenderness and truth. Welcome the world to hear the gospel. Guard the family with humble courage. Keep short accounts. Restore the repentant. Refuse the brittle hardness of pride. Choose the narrow way of love that protects, heals, and points hearts back to Jesus.
Real-Life Analogy
Think of a kitchen. Friends from the neighborhood come in by the back door. Shoes track in a little dirt. Laughter fills the room. You offer a seat, pour coffee, and share a warm plate. You do not lecture guests about their muddy soles. You host with kindness, trusting good conversation to do its work. Now picture a gas burner left open in that same kitchen. You do not shrug. You turn the knob off quickly, open a window, and make the house safe. Hospitality for guests, protection for home, both happen in the same room.
Today, if a coworker who does not follow Jesus invites you to lunch at a place you would not choose, you can still sit across from them with a quiet heart and real interest, trusting the Spirit of Jesus to speak through your presence. And if you learn that a friend in your small group is openly justifying what Scripture calls destructive, you can pursue them gently and clearly. Say, Lord, I rely on You to express Your truth in love through me right now, and to keep my heart soft as I seek their good.
Prayer of Confidence
Lord, thank You that You placed me in this world with the gospel of grace. Thank You that Jesus is my life within, and that His kindness leads hearts to change. I praise You for the family of faith You formed, washed, and set apart. I affirm that Your wisdom orders both welcome and boundaries. I receive Your courage to love neighbors without a gavel, and to love brothers and sisters with gentle honesty. I rest in the finished work of Jesus that makes holiness possible and restoration beautiful. Keep my eyes on Him, and let His life be the pattern of my words and ways today.
Scripture References for the Voice of the Holy Spirit Through Scripture Section
John 3:17, Luke 19:10, Colossians 4:5-6, 2 Corinthians 5:18-20, Romans 12:9, 1 Corinthians 5:9-13, Matthew 18:15-17, Galatians 6:1, 2 Thessalonians 3:14-15, Galatians 2:20, Romans 6:4-11, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, Philippians 2:13, John 13:34-35, 1 Peter 2:12, Philippians 2:15